I’m a negative guy. After almost a decade playing in the dining
rooms of fine restaurants, training myself to look for small flaws - a fork
that is not exactly one inch from the table edge, a drip on the edge of a plate
coming out of the kitchen, a table corner that is slightly off ninety degrees,
a water glass half full – I realized that I had trained myself to be a negative
guy.
I like to think that I am not
unpleasant when I go out to dinner with friends, or partaking of home-cooked meals. But it leaks
out. Every few years, my siblings and I
gather around our mom somewhere for a reunion.
On one of these trips, I spent an afternoon making dinner. From all outward appearances it was probably
fine (actually it was probably very good; not like the failed carrot soup from
an earlier reunion). However, it didn’t
quite hit the mark that I was aiming for, and as I began my deconstruction of
it, my brother said to me, 'are you ever happy with anything that you cook?'
Of course in the moment, I
explained all of the reasons and defended all of my compulsions. But later… it hit me harder than I would have
liked.
Recently as I met with a client, he
was finishing up writing thank you notes to various employees from around the
hospital. As it turns out, each Friday
he writes short notes to a handful of employees whose names have been passed
along to him from his directors, and mails them to their homes. He told me about one note. A woman from the housekeeping department had
approached him in the hall to thank him for it.
She had worked for the hospital for almost eighteen years. She had a teenage son. When she opened the card at home, she said,
it was the first time that she could remember her son ever looking at her with
pride for the work that she did at the hospital.
It is a small gesture, to recognize
something positive. You just never know
what the real impact of that small gesture is.
I pay attention to details. I am a horizon scanner. I anticipate issues. This tendency makes me very good at some
things. It makes me a good operator. It
makes me a capable consultant. However,
it does not make me a great manager of people.
It makes me difficult to work for.
So now, I write thank you
notes. And, I fight for the positives.
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